Letting Go and Taking the Chance to be Real – $15.93
Sherron Lewis, LMFT and Shelley Stokes, PhD
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If you are interested seeking a deeper insight into how you can live more consciously in your fullest potential, this book is highly recommended. It combines several years of personal and clinical experience and authentic examples of how to grow past childhood woundings and express the strivings and desires of your real self.
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The image we have of who we are, of who we would like to be, and of who we are told we are by others is a sense that changes over the years. It is composed of various images which we strive to integrate over time. This sense of self begins to develop in childhood and grows (or is stunted) through experimenting and testing in our earliest relationships and later relationships in life.
The ability to express one’s core “real self” is a developmental achievement. Its expression takes courage and a healthy sense of self-esteem, self-efficacy, and self-agency. However, many of us are afraid to take the chance at real-self expression. We, all too often, suppress expressing our real thoughts and feelings for fear of failure, ridicule, or loss of support; time and again leaving us to feel misunderstood, unsatisfied, frustrated, or neglected.
To express our real self fully requires healthy internal capacities for closeness, vulnerability, creativity, intimacy, and self-soothing and repair. For many of us, it will be painful to realize that those we turned to in childhood did not sufficiently meet core needs nor never will. We may further discover that we now turn to others to fulfill these early needs, only to find that they cannot; that they cannot make up for WHAT EARLY ON WE MISSED—SUPPORT FOR BEING FEARLESSLY REAL.
Letting Go and Taking the Chance to be Real is about the processes involved in becoming real again or perhaps for the first time.
Shelley Stokes, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist in private practice in southern California. He has been a professor of psychology at Washington State University and the California School of Professional Psychology, former Director of the Psychological Service Center (CSPP Fresno), and Director of Operations of the Lee Psychiatric Medical group. He has held top-level administrative and clinical supervisory positions in various mental health organizations. He received his certification in psychoanalytic psychotherapy from the Masterson Institute in 1994 and has had a long-standing practice treating and teaching about the disorders of the self. His presentations and writings have included Disorders of the self: Advances in diagnosis and treatment of borderline personality organization; Non-pathologic object use in the process of therapeutic change: Winnicott revisited; The culturally different patient in psychoanalytic psychotherapy; and An attachment-based, relational, multiple self-state approach to alcohol use in schizoid and in narcissistic disorders.
Sherron Lewis is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who has been in private practice in southern California specializing in individual and interpersonal conflict and personal development. Her areas of specialty are individual, couples, and family therapy, multi-level intervention, and clinical consultation. Her theoretical orientation is a blend of psychodynamic, attachment, and family systems theories. She has conducted workshops on parenting, toxic shame, and the cycle of deprivation. She has also enjoyed being a free-lance artist for the past 30 years.
These authors have both been presenters in the Leadership Advantage Seminars at Watts Associates.